Helpful Good Manners to Teach Your Kids


Manners and etiquette in children is an indicator that they have been brought up well. Teaching good manners to kids may be quite a task, but make sure not to lose patience with your child. After all, being patient is also good etiquette.

Good Manners to Kids

And kids learn from adults being good role models. Therefore, it is important that we as adults and parents exhibit the best manners in front of our children, so that they can watch and learn.


Instilling good manners in your child also makes him or her an overall pleasant person, polite, kind and more likely to succeed in life. In this article, we will look at a list of 20 good manners that your child should know and learn.

Why Children Should Be Taught Good Manners

Children with good manners always have an edge over others, whether it is academically or socially. Here are some ways in which good manners benefit children.

1. Boosts Self-Esteem

Being rewarded for having good manners and seeing a positive impact of their behaviour in the real world makes children feel more confident. Feeling worthy of respect is a great confidence booster.

2. Social Life

Kids that are generally rude or aggressive attract the wrong kind of crowd, whereas kids who treat their peers and friends kindly and with respect are more popular and attract more loyal people who mirror their behaviour. Good manners lead to stronger and more positive relationships.

3. Better Opportunities

Well mannered children stand out from the crowd and are handed better opportunities in their academic life, as well as career. Polite people are likely to be employed and grow faster in their career

4. Happiness

Doing one good deed or seeing a positive response from someone gives people a sense of happiness and satisfaction, and they are likely to repeat this behaviour, building a habit. Good manners result in happier children.

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Good Manners You Must Teach Your Children

1. Saying ‘Please’ and ‘Thank You’

This is one of the first basic manners to teach your child. The importance of saying ‘please’ when asking for something and ‘thank you’ when receiving something should be instilled in

2. Asking before Taking Anything

Children should learn to ask permission before taking anything that is not theirs, even with people like Mom and Dad. They should also be taught to return anything they have borrowed, with proper thanks.

3. Saying ‘Sorry’

Along with ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, saying sorry when you have done something wrong is also an important habit to instil in your child. Teach your child when and where to say sorry, and not use it casually. Empathy is a skill they have to imbibe.

4. Knocking on Doors Before Entering

Kids should be taught that privacy is paramount, especially at home. They should know that it is respectful to knock on someone’s door and ask permission before entering the room. Doing so in front of your kids will help them pick it up as a good habit.

5. Covering One’s Mouth When Sneezing or Coughing

Teach your kids to cover their mouths when they sneeze or cough. Also, teach them that picking one’s nose in public is considered rude and unpleasant. This is not only a part of good manners, but also hygiene.

6. Saying ‘Excuse Me’

This is another basic manner for children to learn. Children are naturally impatient, so they have to be taught to say ‘excuse me’ and ask permission to talk. They should also know when and how to enter a conversation without interrupting anyone.

7. Not Making Fun of People

This should be taught very early on, as if it is not, children might think it is okay to make fun of people. They should be taught that it is never okay to hurt someone’s feelings by making fun of them or bullying them in public or private.

8. Phone Etiquette

Your child should know how to talk on the phone and also be silent and listen when someone on the other end is talking. This will help make him/her leave a good impression on people.

9. Showing Respect to Elders

Adults have been on this Earth since a longer time, and kids should be taught that experience leads to wisdom and wisdom leads to respect. They should be taught to show respect to their parents, grandparents, teachers, and any other adults they encounter.

One way of doing this can be by always serving food to the elders, before the kids, or giving up a seat on public transport to an older adult, while your kid is watching. They will know that showing deference to age indicates good manners.

10. Learning and Remembering People’s Names

Using and remembering someone’s name shows that you have made an effort to recognise and remember them. Teach your kid to remember a friend’s name or family member’s name by using it often with him or her.

11. Not Pointing or Staring at People

To teach your kids that pointing and staring at someone is rude, tell them that if they point at someone, three fingers will always point back at them. You can use that as a base to teach them to be aware of other people’s emotional space. Asking them how it would feel if they were pointed at or stared at is also a step to getting them thinking.

12. Being Kind to People with Disabilities

Children are naturally curious about everything, so if they see a person with some disability, they would point and stare, ask questions loudly, or even be scared. They should be taught that such people with disabilities are just like everyone else and should be treated with the same consideration.

13. Being a Good Guest

Teach your kids to be considerate and polite when visiting their friend’s homes. They should know how to be adaptable to the other family’s schedules, not be stubborn or fussy with the food served and to express their preferences without being vague. Kids should also be taught to greet hosts well, when visiting their homes.

14. Having a Conversation the Right Way

Children should learn that yelling, shouting and screaming are not the right methods to communicate. No matter how angry or irritated they are, they should be taught to speak softly and put their point across. You can help your child to learn this by doing the same in front of them. Also, teach them to wait until the other person is done talking, before taking their turn. This will also make your kids listen to you.

15. Being Compassionate and Helpful

Learning to show compassion and being helpful should become a habit to children. It will make them feel really good about themselves and also help them be well-liked by others. You can teach them things like holding the door open for people who have their hands full or helping parents and teachers with chores.